Just because it's long overdue doesn't mean it can't be said....
"Just because it's long overdue doesn't mean it can't be said" is what a little birdy say this morning. I must have wrestled with what to say, how to begin and where to start. Maybe you just signed up for my newsletter or maybe you've been waiting for some time for me to break the silence and start sharing again. I would sit down and start, then get back up because I felt like I had to explain what all happened since the last time I wrote. It's like this...imagine someone asks you for a recommendation for a local place to eat. Instead of just offering a suggestion you go through all your restaurant experiences before you give them what they asked for. Sweet merciful baby JC, who the hell wants to hear all that? It was important to you in your journey; not theirs. They just wanted to know where to eat. I realize that how I got here and what all I've been doing is relevant to me....and maybe Mitch. What might be relevant to you, is simply what I share about the now.
This is a newsletter with more than just tips and products and sewing news but if you've been here a while (yea...I know, waiting -- a LONG time) you already know that. If you know me; you already know that too. But rest assured my newsletters will be honest, candid, loving, thoughtful and a freaking wee bit edgy. If that's not your thing, then unsubscribe. Don't bitch, belly ache or whine -- just move along. I'm ok with that. (hugs and I wish you well).
Still in? Good for you...that's exactly what I offer you right now. Good....for you --because there's good in you but you might not yet know just how much good there is. May my words inspire, empower and maybe encourage you to find that magic within!
So, I was falling forward this morning aka running. in the cemetery in Troy. I actually got in 3.43 miles and did it in 52:58 in 80 degree temps....yea for me! Anyway, I looked across the cemetery and realized it was a field of regrets. Yup....I saw monuments of carved records and heard "field of regrets." You may...or may not....know/remember I used to be in a different business. They called me Reverend until I just felt that was too pompous and didn't fit so they just called me Pastor Phyllis. Good thing you're sitting down, right?! Well, anyway I sat at the bedside of lots of dying folks in 10 years. People will talk about all kinds of things when they are in their final moments and their realize their expiration hour draweth nigh. They talked about families and secrets and final instructions and yes, regrets. Not one of them in all that time ever regretted anything they had done and some of them had done some not nice shit. They seemed to have forgiven themselves and worked through it. The regrets they had? It was for the things they had not done. All the things they intended to do and never did. I'm not going to talk about the limited time crap because that is just crap. You have all the time to do the things you really want to do but you already know that down inside. I would like to suggest that sometimes the things we don't do are because we don't believe we can/will/want to do them. We may say we want to do this or that and we don't. How can you tell if what you are really believing? Well, if you have ever made a back up plan.....then there's your problem. It is just that simple. If you really wanted and knew you could do it, then you wouldn't have a back up plan. You may as well not even start with the first plan or the second but rush headlong into the last plan because that's the one you have chosen to believe in. I've seen it happen in my own life numerous times and especially in the last 16 years. That's right; my retail business is 16 years old this year. I opened it 2 days later than I projected despite a little ole brain trauma injury I had just 1 month prior to opening. You know....subdural hematoma....86% mortality rate....helicopter ride from one hospital to the trauma hospital in Dayton....8 days...uninsured.....with do virtually nothing instructions from my neurologist upon release. Did I do nothing? Well hell no I didn't. Mitch and I build cabinets, wrapped flat folds onto put ups with my intermittent bouts of vertigo. I built my business driven by fear of lack and belief of scarcity. Fear is a mighty powerful motivator; not really. It's like the great and terrible Oz. It's a wee little man behind a curtain pretending to be more than he is. It's amazing how much I actually did that was driven by fear! I finally asked to see It is time for me to live with no regrets, no back up plans! It is time I make decisions driven by my own passions not my fears and definitely not reactionary. How about it? What's driving you today?
....as always, from my heart,
in the Patch designs
SHOP NEWS: This is the week of 50% off all our cottons. We're open from Tuesday to Thursday, 11am-5pm. This is one of the phases in the changes I am making. There are more phases to come but you get one nugget at a time. Partly because not everyone can keep their stories straight (right?) and partly because I still have some tweaking to do. Do worries; I am making changes to bring even more magic from within the Patch designs and I am ever so grateful to share steps in our journey. (hugs)